line numbers ACTUALLY refresh all the time

lisp/mitch-packages.el

@@ -349,6 +349,8 @@ targets."
   :hook (prog-mode . nlinum-relative-mode)
   :init
   (defun mitch/nlinum-buffer-setup ()
+    (nlinum-relative-mode -1)
+    (nlinum-relative-mode 99)
     (setq nlinum-format-function
 	  (lambda (line width)
 	    (let* ((line-display (abs (- line nlinum-relative--current-line)))
@@ -373,7 +375,7 @@ targets."
 	      str)))
     (setq-local nlinum--width (length (number-to-string
 				       (line-number-at-pos (point-max))))))
-  (add-hook 'minibuffer-exit-hook #'mitch/nlinum-buffer-setup))
+  (add-hook 'focus-in-hook #'mitch/nlinum-buffer-setup))
 
 ;; broken terminal that doesn't compile but at least it's fast when it does
 (elpaca-use-package vterm